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Yes, there are rules for wedding guests too. You don't want to unintentionally commit a faux pas at your friend or loved one's affair. Here’s a quick etiquette cheat sheet on how to properly charm the bride and groom.
When you get an invitation with an RSVP card, and a REPLY BY date, don’t stash it out of sight. Making sure you RSVP on time is a big deal because vendors require a final head count a few weeks before the wedding in order to make sure there’s enough seating and food available. You don’t want to be that person that makes the, already busy bride and groom, have to accommodate you last minute. If you don’t see an RSVP or RSVP BY date, please check the wedding website. There will probably be an RSVP on there.
DON’T ASSUME YOU GET A PLUS ONE (actually don’t even ask)
Unless the invite says “and guest” on the invitation, you should be the only one attending. And no, you should never call and ask if you can bring a guest. If it were within their budget they probably would have extended a plus one on the invitation.
DON’T ASSUME KIDS ARE WELCOME
If the envelope doesn’t include your kids’ names or “and family” then no, your kids are not invited. Sometimes, people will add “adults only” to the invitation and that is pretty self-explanatory. This is another not to ask after you receive the invite in the mail. Hire a babysitter and leave the kids at home for a fabulous date night!
The forecast may show 100% torrential downpour for your loved ones big day this weekend, but this does NOT mean you need to be the one to tell them. Some people think that rain on the wedding day means “good fortune”, if you are one of these people that is super, but please do not feel the need to spread the good fortune onto the bride. No bride ever wants to hear that.
PAY ATTENTION TO THE DRESS CODE
If the invitation says formal or casual, that is pretty self-explanatory. There is also black tie, white tie, etc. If you don’t know what it is... look it up! There are plenty of articles online that will help guide you as to the appropriate attire for men and women for every kind of occasion. Jeans and a white tee are never ok. We can’t stress it enough that if you receive an invitation that says “formal,” do not ask the bride or groom if it is ok to wear jeans. Be respectful and honor their wishes. Remember, it’s their big day, not yours.
BE ON TIME
It is never acceptable to make an entrance after the bride. Plan to be at your seat 20 to 30 minutes before the official wedding time. If you happen to be late because of an unforeseen circumstance, just wait until the I-do’s are over and guests have left their seats to join the festivities.
DON’T FORGET TO TURN OFF YOUR PHONE
Be courteous and don’t ruin the couple’s big day by interrupting their vows with your ring tone.
DON’T POST PICTURES ONLINE
You may have gotten some amazingly beautiful photos but that doesn’t mean the bride and groom want their faces or those photos posted everywhere online. Wait until after the wedding and then reach out and ask what they would prefer. Taking photographs during the ceremony is not only distracting to other guests, but you may unintentionally get in the way of the wedding photographer. Leave the picture-taking to the professionals and respect the fact that the bride and groom are paying the photographer a lot of money.
Enjoy the bar, but don’t abuse it. Drinking excessively is just unbecoming and rude on a bride and grooms special day. Be gracious and pace yourself. If the bride and groom have provided an open bar, show your gratitude and be able to celebrate with the bride and groom until the end.
MAIL YOUR GIFT
Most stores that handle registries offer the option to ship items directly to the couple’s address. It helps to keep the bride or groom (most likely the wedding planner) from having to haul all the presents back to the bridal suite.